HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

No more countdown! The big day is here. HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

I have one last gratitude to share which is actually the most important - the appreciation I have for my family and friends near and far. Of course these important people are in my heart every day, but on holidays like this it is easier to express that affection. Grabbing a friend, or even a sibling and yelling "I LOVE YOU MAN!" is not regularly encouraged. But, today, I can get away with it. So, here goes - I LOVE YOU MAN (and women)! If you are in my life, you are there for a reason, and I appreciate that fact and cherish it daily. 

Furthermore, I realized that my Mom & Dad, husband, my sisters, brother, sister-in-laws, brother-in-laws, nieces, nephews, cats, and adopted family members (i.e. friends) all contribute to the 5 things that I already counted down:

1. My Health - is greatly benefited by all of the love in my life.
2. My Freedom - is a product of the life shaped by my parents, husband and community.
3. Good Food - is often prepared for me by my family, or enjoyed with friends.
4. Much Laughter - is encouraged and promoted by everyone in my life.
5. And, a daily does of unconditional love is provided by my Cats.

So, that concludes this year's countdown! Thanks for joining me and I hope you and your families enjoy a happy, healthy holiday!


 

The Five Days of Giving Thanks - Day #1 - Health

It's the last official countdown day until Thanksgiving and it hasn't been easy narrowing down the final "thing" to be thankful for. Of course there are shoe-ins like family & friends, but I'm reserving tomorrow to celebrate them. There is also acceptance, which has become increasingly important in my life lately. And, I am also thankful for a myriad of simple things like nature, sunshine, flowers, music. These all may sound a bit cheesy, but I am unabashedly cheesy, and I'm thankful for that too.

However, what REALLY makes me thank God, the universe, and whatever other powers out there that are controlling this crazy karmic adventure called life, is HEALTH. It is by far the blessing that I have become most grateful for, mostly because it doesn't always come easily. Since I have several autoimmune diseases, my health waxes and wanes, often on a day-to-day basis. This may sound like something I should be lamenting, and believe me I have spent plenty of time wallowing in self pity. But, ultimately, anytime you lose something, you cherish it all the more when it returns. So, days when I feel healthy and happy are the greatest gifts. There is nothing better than feeling good. Period.

I am actually even a little grateful for illness as well. After all, having illness helps me to see things from a totally different perspective. It has enabled me to develop an incredible amount of empathy and compassion for others. In short - I just finally get it. Sometimes I find myself giving advice to a friend or acquaintance who is going through a rough time, and they suddenly look at me with this expression that says, "how did you know?" I realize at that moment that my ability to understand what it's like to experience challenges is a real gift that can help others. And, I'm sure you know that helping others feels great.   

As they say, life is all relative. My highs have been higher simply because my lows have been so incredibly low. And, better still, I have been learning so much through the Integrative Health & Healing program, that even my lows are rising. Meaning, even on my bad days, my tired days, I have developed so many skills for coping that I feel better and stronger. I know that autoimmune disease is incurable, but I also know that the human spirit is incredibly resilient and I can have a disease without letting it have me.

I woke up feeling awful today. I had a terrible night of sleep due to a lingering sinus infection. But, I had time to sleep in, do Emei Qigong, and listen to healing music. By the time my sister and her family arrived for a pre-Thanksgiving meal I was feeling great. The joy of their company, good food, lots of laughs, and a few Margaritas later and I am feeling totally healthy - mind, body and spirit. Now that is something to be thankful for!

The Five Days of Giving Thanks - Day #2 - Freedom

This image is called "freedom". Cool right?

For Day 2 of the Thanksgiving countdown the "thing" I am so very thankful for is actually many things that fall under one header - freedom. it's cheating a bit to pick such a broad theme that affords me the opportunity to address several items at once. But, I think it's important to cover them all - and hey, this is my blog, so I have the freedom to do what I want :).

When I think of the word "freedom" my first thought is how proud I am to be an American. No matter what happens in the political climate of the country, or how disappointed I get when I learn about corruption in our government, I am still so incredibly thankful to have been born here. As much as we complain about what things cost and the troubled economy, we still have an incredible number of affordable options in housing, food and clothing. In short, the majority of Americans are free to have our needs met. When I think of other countries who don't even have clean drinking water, or where the average weekly wage is less than $10, I am blown away by how lucky I am.

And, in terms of personal safety, I know I am blessed every day. With all the dedicated members of the armed services protecting my safety, along with police, fire personnel, EMTs, nurses and doctors, I don't have to live in fear. I am thankful just to know that others have made a commitment to looking out for my well being and that of all those I love.

Those freedoms cover my basic physical needs, but freedom is really so much more. True freedom is a state of mind. I feel especially blessed to have recently learned that I can break free from others criticisms, judgments, or demands. I can set boundaries as to what I will and will not accept from others. And, I can just choose to be happy and confident with my choices regardless of the outcomes. Now that is freeing! How do I do that? Practice, lots and lots of practice. I've learned to meditate, take time to breath deeply, journal daily, practice Emei Qigong regularly, and aim to avoid toxic people whenever possible. This is a bit more complicated than I make it sound and I am only just beginning to experience freedom from my once perfectionist ways, but just knowing that I truly have the power to get there makes me happy to be alive. (I am actually reading a book right now to this end called Aware, Awake, Alive. The author, Elliott Dacher, M.D., is a very wise man with a very simple but powerful message. I am lucky enough to get to meet him at TGI next week.) 

In line with all this freedom I have discovered within myself, I also am very grateful for the freedoms that my life has afforded me. My parents generously put me through college which enabled me to always have ample career options. For that, along with the experience of college itself which really helped me spread my wings, I am eternally grateful. I think so many kids expect that their parents are just going to pay for school, and that seems to be the case frequently these days. I know of numerous families in which the parents have put off retirement or gotten second jobs just to pay for their child's education. And, yet, from what I understand of these situations, the children don't seem to appreciate the sacrifices their parents have made. College itself is a form of freedom and if someone helps you get that, you should be thankful - I'm just saying. 

Which brings me to my husband who is helping to support me through graduate school (TGI). He knows that I am completing this program (Integrative Health & Healing) because I am so passionate about health and I want to learn everything I can on the subject. And, he also realizes that getting this degree will not necessarily help to increase my income. But, with this, and in most other areas, he lets me "do my own thing" which makes me very happy. We both give each other the freedom of having our own lives, without restricting each others' choices or activities, and I personally feel that is the only way a relationship can work.

Boy, this is getting long, if you are still with me, I have one more freedom that I have become especially thankful for in the past year and that is my freelance writing and web career. Prior to going out on my own I had some of the worst job experiences you could imagine - a boss who just didn't show up for work leaving me scrambling to get big projects complete (that same boss laid me off the day before my wedding), a manager who stole from me, a narcissistic colleague whose lies and manipulation made me feel as though I was losing my mind. In short, I have been ultimately forced to convene with really unethical, unkind and sociopathic individuals just to make a living! But, once you become a freelancer you get to choose who you work with. Don't get me wrong, being a freelancer is very difficult and there are lots of negatives.  Yet in general, the decisions are all my own. If someone is nasty to me, I just don't take any additional projects from them. It is amazing how much better your day is when you are no longer surrounded by people you despise. And, the ability to work on writing and web projects from the comfort of my own home, when I have the energy, is the ultimate freedom and blessing too.

I know I said that was the last one - but I thought of just one more. I am thankful for the freedom to express myself on the Internet and for people who actually read what I write. (I'm talking to you - thanks!) Facebook and my blogs really help me get my feelings out to the world. Since I am quite shy, having a vehicle for my voice is something I am grateful for every day.

The Five Days of Giving Thanks - Day #3 - Food

So, we're are down to Day 3 of the Thanksgiving countdown and it is getting tougher to decide just what to post about. Not because there aren't enough things to be grateful for, but rather because there are so many things that I appreciate and don't want to leave out. But, for certain their is one thing that I have always been grateful for and that is FOOD!

Don't get me wrong, I don't just mean the obsession I had for candy when I was little girl, nor the sheer joy I experienced in sharing a Newport Creamery Jimmie roll with my good friend Steve. I'm not even talking about the pure dedication of my friends Amy and Kate who would walk a mile with me to the closest Shaw's in our little college town so that we could get a bag of cheese puffs. These food experiences were all great and I remember them fondly, but they are not at all what I feel when I express my appreciation for food today.

Ever since learning I was gluten intolerant over 3 years ago, my relationship with food has been a total roller coaster ride. For the first year or so I even lived in fear of everything I ate because so many meals left me feeling nauseous and fatigued. Imagine your best friend suddenly turns on you and nothing you do or say can make them stop - that's what having a food intolerance feels like. I could be mad at my friend turned foe, or I could move on to establish healthy relationships with friends who treat me well. And, that is exactly what I did.

Now my love of food is more of an homage to how eating healthy foods that are right for my body makes me feel - which on most days is pretty darn good.  Following a gluten free diet is really challenging, but it truly teaches you to respect your body more and gives you a genuine appreciation for the importance of nutrition (a somewhat ironic lesson for a dietitian like me). Furthermore, when you can't eat so many things, it makes you really appreciate what you CAN eat. My husband spent a small fortune on the custom ice cream cake pictured (which I could eat because it doesn't have any crunchies like a Carvel cake) and that was by far the best birthday present I had gotten in years! :)

The Five Days of Giving Thanks - Day #4 - Laughter

On this, the 4th Day of Giving Thanks, my prelude to Thanksgiving, I am grateful for laughter. Plain and simple, laughter has the ability to make anything better. I happen to feel especially lucky for my propensity to think EVERYTHING is funny. I know that has been nurtured by a fabulous family who encourages silliness whenever possible; as well as, friends who share an appreciation for the ridiculousness of life.

 Is there anything better than an event or saying that keeps you laughing for decades? (Coney Island Weenie Dip comes to mind - it's one of those "had to be there moments," but trust me it was VERY funny when I was 15). And, what about the word "Sassy"? Doesn't that just make you want to smile? Or "nincompoop"? Can you say that with a straight face? With all the negativity and stress in the world, it is so refreshing to know that a laugh can help lighten the load.

I will end with my Dad's favorite joke (one that hopefully won't be seen as offensive), since we were just reminiscing about it today (he remembers it even though he struggles with memory issues):

What did the Mexican Fireman name his twins?
wait for it 
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José and Hose B

The Five Days of Giving Thanks - Day #5 - Pets

We have the 12 days of Christmas and the 8 days of Hanukkah, so why not celebrate with a countdown to Thanksgiving? I really can't think of anything more important than carrying gratitude in your heart. It lifts your spirit, helps you put problems into perspective, and fosters love and kindness. I am currently doing a class assignment for my master's degree in Integrative Health & Healing in which we compose a piece of art and then write the things we are thankful for that day. It is a really enjoyable experience that has reminded me just how great life is.

So, let me get started with my Day 5 blessing (these are presented in no particular order as I don't want to imply that any one blessing is greater than the rest):

I am overwhelmingly thankful, appreciative and filled with love because of my cats - Gladys & Pip.  They remind me that the simple things in life, like the sun on your face or the warmth of a cozy blanket, are enough to bring happiness.

If you don't have a pet, please consider adopting one or even donating time at a shelter or Animal Assisted Therapy Program. The unconditional love of an animal is priceless.


Feel free to post a comment telling me what you are thankful for today!